Truth be told though, I live nearly 3,000 miles away from most of my family. I prefer to spend my time enjoying them, not debating current events – even if I know I'm right (I'm half joking, of course). So what does this queen of sass do around family? I try to avoid divisive political debates. Here are some additional tips for avoiding conflict with Uncle Bob and other relatives during the holiday season:

As I mentioned, avoid politics. It's a tense time in this country, and while it's important to not totally avoid the subject in your everyday life, perhaps you can skip it for the few hours and/or days you're with your family. I would also try to avoid religious debates as well. There isn't much in this world that gets people heated up more quickly than politics and religion. I pray you can avoid both this holiday season.
Don't talk smack, meaning, avoid complaining about a family member to another family member.
Allow your relatives to reinvent themselves without you reminding them of who they used to be – specifically if the previous version wasn't the best one. People don't like to be reminded of their mistakes. If your sister or Aunt Karen used to drink a bottle of wine over dinner every year, consider not mentioning it when they decide to drink Martinelli's sparkling cider this year. Instead, just smile to yourself and be happy for them and their liver – in silence.
Be prepared to be helpful. During the holidays, I know I'll likely get stuck with the cooking. I miss the days of my mom doing this. However, I realize my parents are getting older and the torch has been passed on. Whether you like it or not, it's just a few days out of the year, so try to suck it up and be helpful (and remember all that your parents have done for you).
Bury the hatchet. If you've had past disagreements with family members, avoid bringing up the topics that may have previously caused tension. As the saying goes, let bygones be bygones.

Hopefully these tips will save you from potential conflicts and help you maintain a little bit of sanity during the holiday season.

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Eat, Drink & Keep the Peace This Holiday Season

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