My daughter MacKenzie recently stood up in a wedding as the flower girl. I was honored when my cousin called to ask me if she would participate. Since I was traveling on a work trip when he called, I counted the minutes to get home to share the exciting news. MacKenzie responded with trepidation. I was surprised. She typically oozes confidence and craves social interaction, so I had anticipated a thrilled response and she was nervous. The fear of the unknown was real.

I quickly realized she had never been to a wedding and this represented something she could not quite imagine. My husband and I got out our own wedding album to show her our flower girl’s pictures so that she could begin to better understand the expectations. We talked about what her fears were and how she might handle them. We practiced walking with the flowers. We tried on the dress. I shared stories about times I had been fearful and how I conquered those fears.

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