Find Your Own Strength: 6 Tips for Women Leaders
At the Omega Women's Leadership Center 2013 Women & Power Retreat, Carla Goldsteinsolicited presenters' advice on how emerging women leaders can find their own strength. Here are her six big takeaways.
When we are riding the waves of life and feel especially tossed and turned by its storms,Elizabeth Lesser beckons us to drop anchor and root firmly in our emotional center of kindness, compassion and interconnectedness, no matter the circumstances in which we find ourselves. Elizabeth spoke of the daily acts of courage, backbone and strength of caretakers such as teachers, nurses, nannies, parents, farmers, healers and social workers and told the story of Antionette Tuff, the bookkeeper at an Atlanta elementary school who prevented another massive school shooting from happening. Antointette, who calmly and lovingly spoke to the gunman, says that she practices what her pastor called anchoring, first anchoring in one's inner strength, and then letting empathy and compassion lead the way. Anchored strength in service of compassion averted a national tragedy. To anchor is to remember who we are, what we are doing, how we are living, and what values we are serving and why.
2. Soft Front, Strong Back
To travel through life equally receptive and assertive; to know when compassion calls us to be yielding and when it calls us to be firm. Joan Halifax Roshi guided us to walk tall with soft bellies and strong, upright spines rather than harden our hearts, and to cultivate balance and wisdom with love and confidence.
3. Don't Shrink, Don't Puff Up
"It's not about winning. It's not about losing. It's about the courage to show up when there are no guarantees." Brené Brown reminded us that the most important thing is to get in the arena and make our authentic voices heard. It's the choice between comfort and courage, between the sidelines and making a difference. Brené shared her personal mantra for keeping centered especially when pushed to the edge: Don't shrink; don't puff up; stand your sacred ground. When you are vulnerable and weak-in-the-knees, that's when your truth is strongest.